I was in my daughter’s school for the schools visiting day and I couldn’t help ponder over the welfare of some students I saw in the school. I noticed two students who stared at me and my daughter as she ate and we talked about her welfare in the school. At some point, I became so uncomfortable. You can imagine how uncomfortable I was as they constantly had their gaze on us. I was unease; I asked my daughter if she knew why they are staring at us. She told me their parents didn’t come to visit them. My daughter also suggested they may be hungry or feeling rejected. She said ‘Mummy, their parents didn’t come and today, the school will not give us lunch because it is taken for granted that all parents will come. I asked for her permission to call them to have some food and drink with us. She gladly obliged and signalled them to join us. On another thought, I asked her if she had friends or classmates whose parents didn’t come for the visit, she said yes and went out to call them. We had another two join us.
I inquired about their parents, some of them told me they won’t come while the others were hopeful. I gave them my phone to call and speak with them…
As a parent, am sure you know how this made me feel. What if they didn’t join us to eat? What would have happened? It was not just about the food or the drink, what of the heart to heart talk with your child, I could only give food, I couldn’t give that motherly love they needed after being in school for two months.
What of the feeling of ‘I don’t have anybody’ written all around these students. Once I was a student, my Aunt instead of my parents visited me during our visiting day. I was visited quite alright but did I get that satisfaction as I would have if my parents came? No! I didn’t. In short, I had to tell my mum categorically never to send anyone to our visiting day. She must endeavour to always come. So what happens when neither of these ones came?
We all are busy as parents but our children should be one of our major priorities. So making out time to go be with them on this special day should also be a major concern for us.
Well, that’s by the way. So for you who visit, visiting day should be much more than bringing Food, Drinks and all the goodies. It’s a time to check a lot of things about your child. You could try these:
- Don’t forget to enquire about his/her Studies, find out if his/her notes are up to date. How learning has been so far.
- Don’t be in a hurry to go. Make out the day for him or her. Do some revision with your child/ward.
- Bond with your Child, gist, chat, and laugh and talk heart to heart. This will make the child know he/she is loved and won’t feel abandoned in school.
- Connect with your Child in Prayer before you hurry off. Hold your child/Children’s hands and pray with them. Yes! You do that at home, do it also physically, it builds their Moral.
- Leave Wisdom words of advice with your child/ward. It will act as a guard against learning strange attitude from others.
- Assure them they are not alone on this Journey of Acquiring knowledge to Greatness
- REMIND them to be Obedient and Respectful to their Teachers, House Masters/Mistresses and Guardians.
- Don’t Forget to Encourage their Caregivers. It’s not easy. But God has been their Strength. Pray for them also that they may direct your child/ward aright.
- Remind them the reason why they are in school. It’s not about eating food all the time.
- It pays a lot to say “I Love you” to your child/children. It can’t be that hard to say to your own child.
Parents and Teachers are in this Journey together. Team Work always works. It’s a Process. God help us all for His Grace is Sufficient for us.